Monday, June 10, 2013

Work vs Home

        I have been a stay-at-home mom for the last 5 years.  I did not choose to stay home with my kids, I simply lost my jobs, took my then one child out of day care and decided to stay home for a while.  By the time I was pregnant with my second child my wife and I reviewed how much it would cost us to keep both of our kids in day care and decided it would be best for me just to stay home for now.  Well it's been 5 years since I've been home and now it's time to get back into work force. 
      I have mixed feelings about it.  As much as I'd love to get back to an "adult world"  my kids and I have been inseparable and get panic attack the moment I start thinking about leaving them for more than few hours at the time.  I know it may sound silly and I know realistically I have to just get over it and go back to work. 
     Last Wednesday I had an interview and this morning they called me in for my second interview.  I was having a panic attack once again.  But even more than that this is what bothered me:
The first phone call was from HR and the lady was very nice on the phone and understood that I can only come in this Friday and that I'd have to call her back to confirm since I had to make sure I had a babysitter for my kids.  Then, 10 minutes later I got a phone call from the woman that interviewed me the first time, to whom I made it very clear that I have been a stay at home mom for the past 5 years.  But, she was not very understanding this time, she said they really needed to make their decision by Wednesdays and that if I am unable to come to the second interview they will call me if they are not pleased with their other finalists.
   Has it been that long since I've been in a work force that employers got tougher and have that many candidates to choose from?  Or is our economy still that bad that there are more than a few applicants for the same job?  Or may be it is that even women do not really understand or unable to have any sympathies for stay at home moms or are they just jealous that they themselves did not have a chance to stay home with their kids?
    I'm not sure which one it is, but I do not it opened up some thinking for me.  Do you think I should have just schedule 2nd interview and then deal with my babysitting issue or be honest the way that I was? 
  I always thought honest was the best policy but I'm starting to think that is not true when it comes to the professional world of pretty much competition.

Friday, June 7, 2013

My daily life

             wake up
             get breakfast ready
             get lunch for my wife ready for work
             get my kids ready:  dress my youngest one and get a snack for my 6 year old for school
            take my son to school
9:00 to 11:30
           try to get whatever needs to be done while I only have 1 child with me.

Anyway it's not always the same every day, but as you may have already guessed I am a stay at home mom and that's my job!  I wish I could get paid for it, but the benefits out weigh the no-money.
To be home with my children for the last 5 years has been a pleasure and a challenge. But just like  any other stay at home mom I feel blessed not to miss anything that happens to my kids. 
It was very tough in the beginning when I first lost my job, I feel like I went crazy and I was snippy, moody and angry and everyone and the world and I had no idea what to do with my son and I have to be honest it took me a long time to figure things out and realize that this is my role now and I made the best of it.
My family is just like yours except may be you are a man and a woman, raising your children as husband and wife and my family has two women who are two wives raising our children.
So that's my regular day, what about you?
What's your family setting look like?